Why I don't date......

I met this guy (let's just call the guy John....oh, wait.....his name is John!). John works with my cousin, Heather, and he gets my phone number from her and calls me, we chat, he asks me out. I'm kinda nervous to go, but mostly excited 'cuz let's be honest, it's been FOREVER since I've been on a real date.

We go to P.F. Chang's and before I go on to say the......um......strange parts of the date, let me say this...honestly, John was very nice. He's cute, has an okay body, nice eyes. He was funny, friendly, seems fairly smart, motivated....and mostly I had an okay time. There were just a few things that made me think to myself, "here is why I am still single...."

First, before we have even ordered (so we're talking less than 5 minutes into the date), John tells me that.....a) I look like his ex-girlfriend, b) the house that he is living in right now he and his ex purchased together and her name is still on the mortgage, and c) if it had been his decision he would have married the ex and would be married right now (she didn't want to get married). Now literally, while he is telling me all this I am thinking to myself, "If things don't change in the next 5 minutes I am OUT of here!" But, things do change and for the rest of dinner he mostly does not bring up his ex.

Then the bill comes. Our waitress sets down the bill in that leather foldy-thing and John picks it up, looks at it for like 15-20 seconds and then says to me, "So your half of the bill is................" and he tells me how much I owe!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My jaw dropped and all I could do was stare at the guy! I swear, I sat there for about 10 seconds with my mouth hanging wide open and could not for the life of me think of a single word to say. I finally stutter out something like, "Okay.....well......um.......I'll have to put it on my credit card....." I mean seriously people, I was shocked!!!! John asked ME out! If I had asked him, I would pay for the whole thing! And in my mind, especially on a first date, it means he should pay! The rest of the date (less than 20 minutes by the time we paid and he very politely walked me to my car!) was kinda strained mostly due to my serious shock of having to pay for my dinner. And, while I'm rambling, let me say that if I had known I was going to pay I would not have been okay with P.F. Chang's, I would not have had wine (he ordered a bottle, which he split the cost of with me), I would have had chicken instead of shrimp, and I sure the heck would not have had dessert (which I only ordered because when the waitress brought the dessert tray by, John said, "I'm going to have that one. Which one do you want?"). Oh, and did I mention that the guy easily makes at least double what I make? Honestly....I don't understand this at all!

Needless to say..........I'm not sure about this guy. Who knows? Maybe he will not call me again and the problem will be solved............but if he does, well, I guess I gotta be honest and tell him the ex-girlfriend stuff bothered me and then use a line my friend, Gabbi, gave me....."I'm sorry John, but I really can't afford to go out with you." LOL

The point to this story.......I'm still looking for my Mr. Right! Crap, at this rate I would even take Mr. Okay.....or Mr. Half-Way-Decent! :-) Hook me people....I know you got some some single friends!